Monthly Archives: September 2014
One of the most talked about new shows on broadcast television this fall season premiered last week on Fox, the comedy-drama Red Band Society. The show has only received mixed reviews from critics; the website Rotten Tomatoes has only given it a rating of 59%. As questionable and sometimes light-hearted as the show’s premise may be, the lesson of the show sticks with us.
The show, based on the Spanish series Polseres vermelles, focuses on a group of adolescents and teens living together and bonding together in a pediatric ward of Los Angeles’ fictional Ocean Park Hospital.
The show has some impressive stars serving as the caregivers who tend to these pediatric ward patients, including Oscar winner Octavia Spencer who stars as Nurse Jackson and Dave Annable of Brothers & Sisters who stars as Dr. McAndrew. What I enjoy most about the show though is that it reminds me of the 80’s classic The Breakfast Club.
In the John Hughes film from almost thirty years ago, five very different teens from different cliques with very different personalities (“The Criminal,” “The Athlete,” “The Basketcase,” “The Princess,” and “The Brain”) are forced to spend Saturday detention together. The film chronicles their day together becoming friends (and more!) in the process. At detention, they are all the same. There are no cliques. There are no societal separations. They are the same, and they come to realize that as well. The film never shows what happens Monday morning when they return to school, but that almost doesn’t matter because at that moment, in that space, during detention, they are united. They appreciate that they are all valued, sacred, and special.
Red Band Society offers a similar premise – thirty years later – taking the group of teens with different backgrounds and personalities out of Saturday detention and into the pediatric ward. However, the idea is the same: anywhere else, especially in the context of high school where there are way too many social divides, these adolescents would never speak to each other. Yet, in the content of the pediatric ward, they are the same, they are united. They appreciate each other’s sacredness. Even “mean girl” cheerleader Kara (played by Zoe Levin) begins the show by telling the other teens that if this was high school, she would never talk to them. The narrator Charlie (Griffin Gluck), who is a nine-year-old in a coma who can hear everything, even acknowledges that rebel Leo (Charlie Rowe) and know-it-all Emma (Ciara Bravo) would never be together, but in the pediatric ward, they find each other.
Real life isn’t high school. In the real world, we do not separate ourselves by cliques. However, too often we still separate ourselves. We stay close to those that look like us, act like us, or believe as we do. We distance ourselves from those who are different. Yet, the lesson we learn from Red Band Society and The Breakfast Club is that we aren’t so different. We focus on our differences to divide us. Instead, let us embrace each other and that which unites us. As we seek to make this world a better place in the year ahead, let us do so together. Let us look out for all, embrace all as God’s creations, and understand that we are all sacred. Under different circumstances, maybe others would seek to divide us. However, our commitment to peace unites us. Our commitment to serving as God’s messengers, and making this world a better place, unites us. In the year ahead, let us open our arms to all. Let us lower the barriers of the cliques and divisions that too often separate us from each other and let us unite as God’s peoples, God’s creation, fulfilling our promising to create a world in which the sanctity of each individual is realized and valued. We don’t need a red hospital band on our wrists to unite us. All we need is an open and pure heart.
Please Note: “Red Band Society” premiered on Fox on September 17th. New episodes can be seen on Wednesdays at 9:00 PM EST. If you missed the series premiere, you can watch it here. The pilot episode was Rated TV-14 for some alcohol and drug use, some profanity, and serious medical situations.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
The weekend before the holiest days of the year for the Jewish community, the High Holy Days, a movie focused on one of the most sacred acts in the Jewish community hit theaters. Written by Jonathan Tropper (based on the book of the same name that he also wrote) and directed by Shawn Levy, This Is Where I Leave You has an all-star ensemble cast including Jason Bateman, Tina Fey, Adam Driver, Connie Britton, Timothy Olyphant, Dax Shephard, and Jane Fonda.
In the film, the four Altman siblings, all struggling in different ways in life, come back together at their childhood home after their father dies. They spend the week together, fulfilling their father’s final wish and request, to sit shiva (the traditional Jewish week of mourning following a funeral) for him. Ironically, their father, who requested that his children sit shiva, was an avowed atheist. Was the family patriarch trying bring together his estranged family, even after he left this world? Or was he, even though he did not believe in God or ritual, asking his family to turn to ritual as we so often do, during times of mourning and loss? Maybe, he just knew the importance of coming together.
This premise is set up to bring the family back under one roof, so we can watch a story unfold about family dysfunction and the hilarity that ensues as a result.
The movie has only gotten lukewarm reviews but the film still offers us an important lesson about the importance of coming together. We may fight and argue. We may distance ourselves from our family, from those closest to us. Yet, it is at times of need, at times of loss, mourning, and grief when we must come together, when we need each other the most.
Community is truly defined by how we come together, for each other, at the high points and low points in life, how we celebrate together and how we mourn together. Jews, and those who have cast their lot with the Jewish people, throughout the world will gather together in synagogues in the coming days for the High Holy Days. We may not entirely connect with the liturgy. We may not understand the themes and messages found in the narrative of the Torah reading. We may not fully understand what our relationships with the Divine are or how we each struggle with those relationships. Still, we come together. For many, we also come together with extended family and deal with the dysfunction – the blessings and sometimes challenges – that come with extended family being under one roof, just as we witness in this film.
But the tension, the disagreements, and the dysfunction do not prevent us from coming together because if we don’t come together then what’s the point? Judaism cannot survive on a deserted island. One can continue to believe. One can be alone and still have faith. But without community, without coming together, Judaism – and faith in general – cannot survive. So we come together, in joy and in grief, and at this time of year, for holiday celebrations. We come together to celebrate a new year and as we celebrate, we let go of the past that has caused such dysfunction in the first place. We come together because we depend on each other. We come together because we need each other. So let us come together during this holiday season, as family, as friends, as community. Let us lean on each other. Let us raise each other up. Let us find renewed strength of body and soul together. Because this is where I need you.
Please Note: “This Is Where I Leave You” produced by Spring Creek Productions and 21 Laps Entertainment and distributed by Warner Bros. premiered on September 19, 2014 in the United States. The film is Rated R for language, sexual content, and some drug use. Viewer discretion advised.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
Tuesday night marked the beginning of season four – and the return – of the show that you can’t help, but fall in love with: Fox’s New Girl, starring Zooey Deschanel as titular new girl Jess. I love the show, not just because it is filled with oodles and oodles of Jewish references, mostly by Schmidt, played by the hysterical Max Greenfield, who throws down Jewish references weekly (“I’m like a Hebrew cheetah,” and “A Menorah – Judaism, Son,”) and attempts to educated his misinformed roommate Nick, played by Jake Johnson (“Tzatziki is what it’s called. It’s Jewish charity”). I love the quirkiness of the humor, the odd couple pairings of the different personalities living together in one Los Angeles apartment, including Coach (played by Damon Wayans Jr.) and Winston (played by Lamorne Morris.
But most of all, I love the premise: New Girl Jessica Day is a quirky, dorky, adorable Middle School teacher in Los Angeles, California. In the pilot episode, she finds returns home to find her boyfriend with another woman. She quickly moves out, and with nowhere to go, she decides to answer an ad on Craigslist, moving in with three (which has now become four) male roommates. Jess was the new roommate, and the new girl. Jess seemed out of place, but this was the perfect opportunity for her to start over, to begin anew.
In the Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Rosh Hashanah, Folio 16b, there is a list of things an individual can do to change a decree against an individual, one of which is changing one’s place. From this teaching, comes the Hebrew proverb Mishaneh Makom, Mishaneh Mazal, meaning, “If you change your place, you change your luck.” Sometimes, it is our familiar surroundings that are so hard to let go of and leave, yet it is those familiar surroundings that truly prevent us from changing.
We often talk about nature vs. nurture. Nature – one’s genetic makeup – is something that we cannot necessarily change. But nurture, those who we surround ourselves with and associate with, is something that we very much have control over. Hasidic tradition teaches that each individual has within us a Yetzer Tov and a Yetzer Rah, a good inclination and an evil inclination. In fact, tradition suggests that each even has the same amount, 50%, of each inclination. This, we have equal opportunity to do right or wrong, or in the case of new beginnings, to stay in neutral and remain the same or to shift gears, go in a new direction, and begin anew. What yetzer, what inclination we side with, the one in which we settle on negativity, or the one in which we push to change and be different, is influenced and determined by who we surround ourselves with and where we are, literally and figuratively.
In the year ahead, may we all change for the better. May we rid ourselves of those things that weigh us down, those people who prevent us from changing that which we truly need to change, and those places that prevent us from starting anew. May we settle into a new place. For some, that may mean literally moving, to a new house, a new job, a new city, or a new school. For others, that may be more figurative, a new state of mind, a new change in lifestyle, a new mindset. But either way, mishaneh makom, mishaneh mazal, may we change our place, figuratively or literally, and change our selves.
Please Note: “New Girl” starring Zooey Deschanel, airs on Fox on Tuesdays at 9:00 PM. For those who missed the season four premiere, it is available on Hulu. Episodes are Rated TV-13 for sexual content, alcohol use, and inappropriate language.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
Fans sat on the edge of their seat a couple of weeks ago as, after seven seasons, HBO aired the final episode of its hit series True Blood. Like any hit series that has been a part of society and pop culture for so long, the finale is bound to receive mix reviews. Just ask fans of Lost and The Sopranos about their thoughts on their respective series finales. The August 24th finale of True Blood was no different. Some fans loved it. Some fans hated it.
I think all fans were shocked when [SPOILER ALERT] protagonist Bill Compton (played by Stephen Moyer) asked his lover, fairy Sookie Stackhouse (played by Anna Paquin), to use her fairy light ball to kill him. That is the only way that Bill — a vampire — could die, and dying would not only set him free, but would set Sookie free as well, since she couldn’t have the family she so desired as long as she was in love with a vampire. Ultimately, Sookie obliged, and in an uncomfortable scene in which she is kissing Bill in his grave, she pierces his heart with a wooden stake.
We could analyze — and overanalyze — the series finale, but I prefer to focus on the series as a whole. This groundbreaking show about vampires living in the fictional small town of Bon Temps, Louisiana, isn’t really about vampires at all. This is not a young adult vampire lovefest (like the CW’s The Vampire Diaries or the hit movies in the Twilight series). The series, based on The Southern Vampire Mysteries by Charlaine Harris, uses vampires as an analogy to discuss issues of injustice that so many minorities face. The series began seven seasons ago after a fictional scientific breakthrough. The show takes place two years after a group of Japanese scientists invent a synthetic blood, known as Tru Blood. Such an invention allows vampires, who previously hid their identities unbeknownst to most of society, to no longer depend on human blood for survival. Many of them seek to integrate themselves into society by campaigning for citizenship and equal rights.
David Bianculli of NPR analyzed the vampires struggle to “come out of the coffin” (an expression that the show actually uses) and noted that the “tension about accepting vampires into society is an obvious play on civil right in general, and gay rights in particular.”
Hollywood is about more than entertainment. True art is used as a vehicle to promote social change and while True Blood brings us a fantastical world in which vampires, werewolves, and witches exist among us, it more importantly teaches us that the struggle for equal rights is a struggle that all of us must fight for.
If a single individual’s human rights and civil rights are denied, whether it be because of race, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, or class, then its a problem that we all must deal with. As Martin Luther King Jr. famously said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”
The liturgy of the High Holy Days reminds us that we change our ways, and we change the world, through Teshuvah, Tefillah, and Tzedakah. However, we often mistranslate and misunderstand what the liturgy is charging us to do. While Teshuvah refers to repenting for our misdeeds and changing our ways and Tefillah refers to our commitment to prayer and wrestling with God, Tzedakah is regularly mistranslated. The term is often used to mean “charity,” but it literally means “justice.” And that is exactly what it means during the Hebrew month of Elul and the High Holy Days. True justice is about changing our ways and changing the world. True justice is about fighting for equal rights for all, recognizing, appreciating, and celebrating that all are created B’Tzelem Elohim, in God’s Divine Image. Justice doesn’t come easily. It is ideal, but not easy to achieve. In Deuteronomy 16:20, we are commanded:
Justice, Justice, You Shall Pursue.
We are commanded to pursue justice because it does not come easily, but it is essential for our survival. It is essential to finish creating the world God set out to create. It is essential if we are to be God’s partners in creation. Chase it. Fight for it. Pursue it. Make it reality. And although we may be entertained by vampires’ love affairs with humans (and even a little annoyed with the final episode), let us not forget that True Blood is reminding us to act just as Deuteronomy instructs us to act, to fight for equal rights and pursue true justice for all.
Please Note: The final episode of “True Blood” starring Stephen Moyer and Anna Paquin premiered on HBO on August 24th, 2014. Episodes are available to stream on HBO On Demand and HBO GO as well as on Amazon Prime. Episodes are regularly Rated TV-MA for Sex & Nudity, Violence & Gore, Alcohol & Drug Use, and Profanity. Viewer Discretion Advised.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
After over twenty years, one of the most popular Young Adult science fiction novels finally made it to the big screen. The Giver was published in 1993 and in the years and decades that followed, it seemed that Lois Lowry’s dystopian novel was required reading for almost every student in the country. It became so popular as a young adult novel that many adults chose to read it as well. With the successful transition of many young adult dystopian futuristic tales to the big screen (like The Hunger Games and Divergent), The Giver seemed like a natural hit. It would have a whole generation of new fans. Those who read it in school twenty years ago would flock to the theaters as adults to see it as well!
The film of the same name, starring Jeff Bridges, Meryl Streep, and Brenton Thwaites, was released on August 15th in theaters. However, it did not catch on with fans of the novel and was a bust. While films like The Hunger Games had huge opening weekends at the box office, The Giver only grossed $12.3 million in its opening weekend, finishing a distant fifth. Through it first month in theaters, the movie has only grossed $33 million domestically and only received a 33% rating on the fan critic website, Rotten Tomatoes.
The movie, which is only loosely based on the original source material of the book, is set in the year 2048. After war, the community got rid of colors, races, ethnicities, and feelings. Memories from before that event was erased from all citizens’ minds. Jonas (played by Thwaites) must receive those memories form the past from The Giver (played by Bridges). The Receiver of Memory is the only individual in the entire community who has these memories and as a result, must advise elders and government leaders on what decisions to make because they are equally unaware of the past.
[SPOILER ALERT] Eventually, Jonas released memories back to the community. The lessoned he learned and the community realized, is something we must hold unto as well. Just because the past is painful, that doesn’t mean we erase it. Forgetting is different than erasing. In Deuteronomy 25, a portion of the Hebrew Bible that Jewish communities throughout the world read last week, we are reminded of the terrible attack on the biblical Israelites by the people of Amalek. Scripture commands us to blot out that memory and still, not forget it.
How do we blot out the memory but not forget it? During the Hebrew month of Elul, we are encouraged to admit our mistakes, repent, and start fresh as a changed person and individual. We begin anew. In order to do that, we must let go of the past. We let go of the pain and heartache that the past has caused us and that we have previously caused others. But we do not forget. If we forget it, then we repeat the past. If we forget it, then we never change; we just end up returning back to our previous state. We remember such painful memories because they made us who we are – and who we strive to become. But we also have the courage to let go, and to begin again.
Please Note: “The Giver” starring Jeff Bridges, Meryl Streep, and Brenton Thwaites, was produced by Walden Media and distributed by The Weinstein Company. The movie was released in theaters on August 15, 2014 and is Rated PG-13.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
Meghan Trainor’s debut single on Epic Records, All About That Bass, was released in June and available to download, buy, stream, and listen for months. Yet, after spending the early portions of the summer barely in Billboard’s Hot 100 (it debuted at #84), the catchy tune skyrocketed during the month of August, from #28 to #8 to #4 to #2. It finally ascended to the top of the charts this week as the #1 pop song in the country.
At first listen, one might thing that the song is just about “booty shaking” and another example of degrading women as sex objects. However, that couldn’t be further from the truth. The lyrics are about empowering women, and all individuals, to recognize that they are beautiful. Trainor challenges societal expectations to look a certain way and to have a certain body shape – expectations that are a result of unrealistic photo-shopped images of models.
I see the magazines working that Photoshop
We know that – ain’t real
Come on now, make it stop
She tells listeners and the world that these unrealistic models aren’t true role models for what boys and girls should strive to look like or compare themselves to. Instead, the song offers an important lesson. Meghan Trainor’s pop anthem with a doo-wop feel to it is truly about self-acceptance.
She embraces her size and encourages others to do the same, as she sings:
If you got beauty building, just raise ‘em up
‘Cause every inch of you is perfect
From the bottom to the top
The message of these catchy lyrics is profound during this time of year. During the month of Elul, we are taught to re-evaluate who we are and think about who we want to become. Yet, we also must recognize that we do not change because someone wants us to change or because society pressures us to look a certain way. We change because we want to change. We should not care about how others view us and how we look. We shouldn’t compare ourselves to others. Instead, we should worry about changing that which we want to change on the inside and loving how we look on the outside.
Judaism teaches the notion that each individual is made B’Tzelem Elohim, in God’s Divine Image. God’s Divine spark is within each of us. Our beauty is God’s beauty. The beauty of understanding that each individual is made in God’s image is accepting that no two individuals are 100% identical, that each individual is unique. Each of us — whether we are tall or short, overweight or too skinny, blonde, brunette, or red-head — is Divine.
On the High Holy Days, we symbolically stand face-to-face with God. In order to prepare for that experience, we must first stand face-to-face with ourselves. Look in the mirror. Smile. See your beauty and declare that beauty. For each of us is beautiful, made in God’s image. Each of us, as Meghan Trainor says, “is perfect from the bottom to the top.” Don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise.
Please Note: “All About That Bass” by Meghan Trainor is her first single released by Epic Records. The lyrics include a couple of words that may be inappropriate for children. The song peaked at #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.
-Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
The most talked about show of the fall tv season emphasizes the themes of the Jewish New Year, most notably, how we redefine ourselves and begin anew. You won’t find this buzzworthy show on a major network. You won’t even find it on a cable channels responsible for some of television’s most recent hits, like FX or AMC. Netflix hit the jackpot a year ago when they began introducing original scripted programming, including the award-winning Orange Is The New Black and House Of Cards.
Amazon has since tried to keep up and respond with their own original programming. They have finally succeeded with this fall’s new series, Transparent, created by the incredible Jill Soloway. The entire season will be available to stream on Amazon Prime on September 26th, but the pilot episode is available to stream now for free here. Vulture already called it the best pilot they’ve seen in years. Stop everything you are doing and watch it. You won’t regret it.
The series follows the interconnected lives of a Los Angeles Jewish family after discovering that the patriarch, Mort (an award-worthy performance by Arrested Development’s Jeffrey Tambor), is transgender. The title is a play on words. Mort is the titular “trans parent.” However, the title gives greater insight to the questioning identities of all characters. Sarah is a married mother and wonders if her life is too boring, ordinary, and settled. Josh navigates from one fling to the next, being lonely without having a true partner. Ali feels like (and is viewed as) a failure, even if she hasn’t yet figured herself out.
While Jeffrey Tambor’s main role as Mort/Maura is a groundbreaking moment in Hollywood for the transgender community, offering dramatic and humorous insight into the world of gender identity, the other characters also, in their own ways, must come to terms with the transparent version of themselves as well. The version of themselves that they portray for the world to see is not necessarily who they are deep down inside. It is not how they feel. They too need to be true to themselves.
We do the same thing. It is human nature to try to conform and fit in, to try and be what society expects us to be. When we do that though, we do ignore the truest versions of ourselves.
The beauty of the Hebrew month of Elul and of the Jewish New Year is that we have the opportunity to start over. Teshuvah, repentance, rids us of past burdens. Elul allows us to let go of that which held us down, and allows us to start over. We are given the unique opportunity to begin again. We are given the opportunity to redefine ourselves and be the person we always knew we were and knew we wanted to be. We become our true selves. We are no longer burdened by how we conformed, by how others expected us to act, or by what others expected us to do. We do not hide who we truly are. We reveal our transparent selves to God and to community. That is what beginning anew is all about.
May we have the courage to be our true and transparent selves, to be whom we are supposed to be – because that is exactly who God created us to be.
Please Note: “Transparent” starring Jeffrey Tambor, Melora Hardin, Jay Duplass, Amy Landecker, and Gaby Hoffmann, is available to stream in its entirely on Amazon Prime on September 26th. Episodes are Rated TV-MA for nudity, profanity, sexual content, and occasional drug use.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
There is no doubt about it – this summer’s biggest movie was Marvel’s Guardian of the Galaxy, which was #1 again this weekend at the domestic box office. It has grossed almost $300 million domestically and over $586 million worldwide, even though it hasn’t even premiered yet in the likes of Japan, China, or Italy.
This movie about a ragtag team of criminals seemed like a ragtag movie itself, surprising even hardcore comic book fans with its success, surpassing the original releases of Marvel Cinematic Universe heavyweights Iron Man, Thor, and Captain America. It even surpassed its Marvel summer competition, the much hyped sequels Captain America: The Winter Soldier and X-Men: Days of Future Past.
The movie is full of action, adventure, great special effects, and a surprising level of comedy. Telling a story that is less well-known than that of Marvel’s other successful superhero franchises, and getting audience buy-in, is much to be celebrated. Bradley Cooper voicing a raccoon with a machine gun and singing along to the catchy music of the film are just added bonuses.
The story is enjoyable, but somewhat complicated. It is like a more colorful and vibrant Star Wars tale, with Peter Quill, played by Chris Pratt, playing a Han Solo-like Star-Lord. Quill, leads a motley crew of space bandits. Quill steals an orb that he attempts to sell. [SPOILER ALERT] Comic book fans get a thrill learning, after the Collector’s inspection, that the orb is actually one of the six infinity stones, hinting at greater things to come in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. The maverick nature of his theft and actions leads one to think that these Guardians are only concerned with themselves. However, in reality, they sacrifice their own well-being for others.
Peter follows Gamora into outer space, giving her his helmet — without it his power is limited — in order to survive. Later, Rocket, risks his own safety for the sake of the group, crashing the Milano through the Dark Aster. When the Dark Aster crash lands on Xander, the tree-creature Groot, voiced by Vin Diesel, sacrifices himself to save the group. When it looked like Ronan was about to destroy Xander, Quill again risks his own well-being, and distracts Ronan, so that Rocket and Drax could destroy Ronan’s warhammer.
Part of being part of a group is understanding and accepting that you must look at for others, not just for yourself. In fact, in the case of these Guardians of the Galaxy, in often means looking out for others, even if that means sacrificing yourself.
During this month of Elul, we are taught to take responsibility for ourselves and for our own actions. However, how often do we really stop to take responsibility for the actions of others? We don’t. It doesn’t make sense to do so. How can we take responsibility for what another does or does not do? Yet, taking such responsibility is exactly what our liturgy tells us to do.
On Yom Kippur, when we publicly, and communally, confess our sins and wrongdoings, we do not do so as individuals. During the confessional prayer, we bang our chests and declare: We have sinned. We have transgressed. We acknowledge the mistakes of others just as they acknowledge the mistakes that we have made. For if they did not intervene, if they did not speak up, if they did not look out for us and try to help us, then they are equally responsible. If we did little to help others, then we are responsible as well.
During Elul, we are taught to guard ourselves, to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. We are taught to guard our words and our actions, but we also must guard others as well. We must look out for others, we must step up and protect others. To truly take responsibility is not just taking responsibility for ourselves; it is taking responsibility for all of humanity. May we come together as a group, despite our differences. May we see each other as brothers and sisters, fulfilling the vision of the Psalmist. And may we always guard each other, because to guard yourself, is to guard those around you as well.
Please Note: “Guardians of the Galaxy” starring Chris Pratt, Zoe Saldana, and Dave Bautista, as well as the voices of Vin Diesel and Bradley Cooper, is Rated PG-13. The film, produced by Marvel Studios and distributed by Walt Disney Studios, is the most successful and highest-grossing movie of the summer. A sequel is already in the works.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky
Easily the funniest – and yet, most underrated – show on television is Fox’s The Mindy Project, starring Mindy Kaling. Mindy Kaling plays Dr. Mindy Lahiri, a character inspired by Mindy Kaling’s real life mother. Dr. Lahiri is an OB/GYN partner at the fictional Shulman & Associates. The character lives in a world in which she imagines that her love life will be like a Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan romantic comedy. Episode after episode, she expects Mr. Right to sweep her off her feet. Many episodes end instead with her watching those romantic films that she yearns to make reality.
Throughout the sitcom’s first two seasons, Mindy dated many men (played by hilarious guest stars including Tommy Dewey, Mark Duplass, Bill Hader, Glenn Howerton, Tim Daly, and Anders Holm, among others). She sought a happily ever after experience, so time and time again, she molded herself to meet the interests of her boyfriends. She changed who she was and pretended to like what they liked, even if she didn’t care for the law that they practiced, or the alternative medicine they performed that rivaled Shulman & Associates’ methods.
The greatest example of her conforming was when she started dating – and became engaged to – an energetic and youthful Christian minister (even if she wasn’t Christian herself). She even tooka leave from her medical office to do relief work in Haiti with her Christian Minister fiancé. However, by the second season, [MAJOR SPOILER ALERT] she ends up with coworker and best friend, Dr. Danny Castellano, played by Chris Messina. With Danny, Mindy doesn’t need to change or conform. She can be exactly who she is, exactly who she is supposed to be.
The title of the sitcom is a reflection of all of our lives’ journeys. The Mindy Project suggests that life is a project as we constantly change and adapt and try to figure out where we are going and where we are supposed to be. The lesson of this sitcom (besides the fact that it is hilarious) is that change is important, as long as it is change for yourself.
As we reflect during this time of year and look to change for the better, let us change for our own sake, not for someone else’s sake. Let us change to be the type of people that we want to be, not whom someone else wants us to be. Let us be ourselves, because each of us, made in God’s Divine image, is unique and offers our own unique insight and perspective on the journey of life. Let as accept that life is a work in progress, that life is a project. And let us be okay with that. Change for the better, but change for yourself and nobody else. Be happy with who you are, because that is exactly who you are supposed to be.
Please Note: “The Mindy Project” starring Mindy Kaling is on FOX on Tuesday nights. New episodes return on September 16th. You can catch up on any episodes you missed from last season on Hulu. Most episodes are Rated TV-14 for sexual content and language.
– Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky